Some things seem right, some not so. If I believe that there is no such thing as right or wrong, all that exists is a perspective. What is right for you may be wrong for me and whats wrong for me may be right for you.
Then why do I feel some actions are wrong? Maybe its my perspective? I sound confused, I know.
The question in my mind is very simple, why would a girl who is madly in love with a guy and who has been with him for atleast 3 years suddenly dump him and go for another guy ( one divorce, one failed live-in relationship & a roving eye no less!)
I understand it not! I am not against people's choices. Its their choice after all! A decision as impulsive as this? I may be judging it wrong, but it bothers me.
A girl gets out of difficult relationship and meets a good samaritan. They fall in love and live happily ever after? No- they are happy together until one day the girl(with a smashing career) meets another guy (better?) and drops the good samaritan like hot potatoes and moves on quickly and how! Maybe the right guy came along a little later, so who was the good samaritan a temporary arrangement?
One fine day, can you really realise that the person I loved all along was the wrong choice? Instead the cool guy around is the right one? Well may be. It can happen but hey, not in a week's time! Give it time folks, its love- you need to nurture it , let it grow and try not to uproot it to count the roots. It takes a long time to grow into a tree, to destroy it and plant a seedling for a new tree is all great but is it worth? Well, its up to you to decide. I still cant digest it!
May be, marriage has domesticised me, or has it made me narrow minded? Whatever it is, I dont think it wise to make impulsive decisions in love, then it becomes a game of luck, if you are lucky, you get it right or you are left in the blue!
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What works for one doesn't work for another and this rule rules the world.
At the end everyone wants to be happy and some don't bother if they buy the happiness at the cost of something that others consider it to be important.
For instance, the girl did what she wanted, to gain happiness, at the cost of sacking the guy with whom she had stayed for quite sometime, which in your context is a wrong thing to do.
A couple of years from now - if we find the sacked guy with another girl who was sacked by a similar guy - and they both are happy - we might comfort ourselves. In everything we do - we bother at the end result and at times an end of something is not necessarily the end of the bigger picture of the same thing.
If we try to think of what we witnessed as an end, we might be worried about it.
Impulsive to you might be a delayed thought to me - and that's why communication is the toughest thing for human beings and misunderstanding of a couple, in most of the cases, I witnessed is because of a communication problem that created other problems.
Not every word everyone learns and uses is from the same dictionary but words are picked into one's vocabulary from a contextual usage of someone whom they observed speaking. This makes different people to have different ideas of what a specific word wants to mean.
Here is a story that I created: Two kids witnessed a man asking a dog to run - and after they saw what the dog did - one kid assumed "running" is all about going as fast as possible while the other kid thought running is all about moving as fast as possible with two legs and two hands on the ground.
After this if I or you ask those two kids to run: both would run but according to their own idea of what running means. If those two were smart ( like you and me :P ) they would stop doing what they are doing and ask a question: What did you think running is? to the person who asked them to run.
This clears ambiguity in communication and helps in doing what other person thinks they should.
Very true, that perceptions are different! What is correct to you might not necessarily be correct to me! But then, thats what perceptions are, based on an individual's view. What that person has gone through, what that person values, enjoys is what matters! But that would never give one enough reason to play with another's heart and just leave him in tatters, for love is not something you feel for a day and then just get over it.. its something far more than just am impulse.. its a feeling of one-ness, a feeling of bliss, an ecstatic state. where there is nothing without the other.. its just a lifeless emotionless zombie that you find without the other..
but hey, you are right, all that had no value in this material world where its merely what you give me that makes me want you, not what you mean to me.. frankly, there is perhaps nothing much that anyone else means, rather than just another piece of matter..
Oh my crying heart, there is no one but for yourself, who would have the time or inclination to lend you an ear...
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