Some things seem right, some not so. If I believe that there is no such thing as right or wrong, all that exists is a perspective. What is right for you may be wrong for me and whats wrong for me may be right for you.
Then why do I feel some actions are wrong? Maybe its my perspective? I sound confused, I know.
The question in my mind is very simple, why would a girl who is madly in love with a guy and who has been with him for atleast 3 years suddenly dump him and go for another guy ( one divorce, one failed live-in relationship & a roving eye no less!)
I understand it not! I am not against people's choices. Its their choice after all! A decision as impulsive as this? I may be judging it wrong, but it bothers me.
A girl gets out of difficult relationship and meets a good samaritan. They fall in love and live happily ever after? No- they are happy together until one day the girl(with a smashing career) meets another guy (better?) and drops the good samaritan like hot potatoes and moves on quickly and how! Maybe the right guy came along a little later, so who was the good samaritan a temporary arrangement?
One fine day, can you really realise that the person I loved all along was the wrong choice? Instead the cool guy around is the right one? Well may be. It can happen but hey, not in a week's time! Give it time folks, its love- you need to nurture it , let it grow and try not to uproot it to count the roots. It takes a long time to grow into a tree, to destroy it and plant a seedling for a new tree is all great but is it worth? Well, its up to you to decide. I still cant digest it!
May be, marriage has domesticised me, or has it made me narrow minded? Whatever it is, I dont think it wise to make impulsive decisions in love, then it becomes a game of luck, if you are lucky, you get it right or you are left in the blue!
Friday, October 19, 2007
Monday, April 09, 2007
Oh..those wonderful places..!
There have been times when I have felt myself drift into wonderland when I look at some pictures and most often, those pictures would be of places -absolutely mindblowing places.
Some places just have that magic about them..they are so breath takingly beautiful that it is hard to imagine they exist. Exist, they do..and here is a proof for that..!
Sunday, April 08, 2007
Friends and more...
I wrote this a few months back....
Writers note: On a day when life dint seem perfect, I felt the urge to write the following piece.. My mind was reeling under the weight of so many thoughts. So putting them in words has helped lighten my mind. I know, it wouldnt make reading easy! At every stage, I have just written whatever I felt like. There will be no consistency in style or method of explanation. Past & present tenses, active & passive voices, first hand accounts and just plain speculations merge with ideas..So dear reader...happy reading!! :)
Friend
I once had a friend. Well, in the context of friends we dont use past tense unless there has been a fight so bad that you start calling each other enemies..
There are exceptions though..
A Friend
After knowing each other's existence for a while, we started talking. Then, we started talking more. The more we talked, the more comfortable we felt with each other. We became friends and life would never be the same again. Its a wonderful feeling to have a friend. I think a statement like this is an irrelevant one. After all, what I have stated is nothing but the obvious. Still, I must mention it, because it is indeed an indescribable yet wonderful feeling.
Of Understanding
Whenever there is something to say, you rush to your friend. Well, that's the case even if there is nothing that needs to be said. Needless to say that your friend also comes to you for anything and everything. In all this there is a lot of understanding and misunderstanding. Sometimes, we understand the silences completely while perfectly misinterpret whats said in words. That is ironic but true. In most cases, we know in the heart of hearts, that the misunderstanding is nothing but that. Still we choose to ignore the heart and go by the external factors. When there is a problem the mind comes into picture and the ego takes over. What would have ended in a small "Sorry" grows into a huge heartache leading to the loss of something priceless ..irreplaceable!
I often wonder why we never have enough courage to go up to our friend ands just tell them how we feel and appologize if wrong or just accept the mistakes of the friend without the requirement of an appology? May be it does not happen all the time, but then its something thats common in friendships.
I understand you as much as I dont...
Of Expectations
I expected you be there in the darkest hour of my life!
But my friend , you know it was unavoidable, who knows it more than you? I have been looking forward to spend time with my family for years now. You were the one who encouraged me with the making this plan of a family vaccation?
Or it could be..You were the one who setup this job interview for me and you know how badly I was looking for this change?
Yet you say I wasnt there for you?
I dint expect you to be so angry with me!
I dint expect you to say all those things to me, your best friend!
I dint expect you to be so.....
Expectation, under the load of which best of friendships get strained.
Why do we expect so much from our friends? Are we capable of fulfilling the same if we were the person on whom so much expectation lay? Even if we are capable of meeting exceeding expectations, are we right in expecting the same from our friends?
I expect that you have no expectation from me..
Of Possessiveness
You dont own me!
I know I dont , but my friend how can I tell you without having to tell you in as many words that I cant accept the fact that you give more of your time to someone else?
But the truth is I dont! I give you more time my friend..
Maybe you do, but that cant stop me from feeling completely at loss when you are not around me when I need you.
Possessiveness is not a quality commonly associated with friendships. But it has to be admitted that it is not a quality alien to friendships. Many a friendship has disintegrated due to this one destructive quality.
Its a complicated emotion! When you like someone and someone likes you , its perfect. When you love someone and someone loves you again it can be perfect. But it is when this feeling lies somewhere in the dangerous waters of friendship that all problems arise.
Possessiveness is a quality I hate to possess..
On friendship
Well, all this goes back to just one thought. How do you define a friendship? Do friends love each other? Or is it that they like each other? Or does it lie in the earlier mentioned unchartable territory(something like a no man's land between nations?).
I love you my friend but not as much as I like you..
So why did I say I once had a friend? Due to one or all of the reasons. After writing all this I feel, I once had a friend. I always will have a friend just as I have one now.
To all my friends with love (or something like it).
Writers note: On a day when life dint seem perfect, I felt the urge to write the following piece.. My mind was reeling under the weight of so many thoughts. So putting them in words has helped lighten my mind. I know, it wouldnt make reading easy! At every stage, I have just written whatever I felt like. There will be no consistency in style or method of explanation. Past & present tenses, active & passive voices, first hand accounts and just plain speculations merge with ideas..So dear reader...happy reading!! :)
Friend
I once had a friend. Well, in the context of friends we dont use past tense unless there has been a fight so bad that you start calling each other enemies..
There are exceptions though..
A Friend
After knowing each other's existence for a while, we started talking. Then, we started talking more. The more we talked, the more comfortable we felt with each other. We became friends and life would never be the same again. Its a wonderful feeling to have a friend. I think a statement like this is an irrelevant one. After all, what I have stated is nothing but the obvious. Still, I must mention it, because it is indeed an indescribable yet wonderful feeling.
Of Understanding
Whenever there is something to say, you rush to your friend. Well, that's the case even if there is nothing that needs to be said. Needless to say that your friend also comes to you for anything and everything. In all this there is a lot of understanding and misunderstanding. Sometimes, we understand the silences completely while perfectly misinterpret whats said in words. That is ironic but true. In most cases, we know in the heart of hearts, that the misunderstanding is nothing but that. Still we choose to ignore the heart and go by the external factors. When there is a problem the mind comes into picture and the ego takes over. What would have ended in a small "Sorry" grows into a huge heartache leading to the loss of something priceless ..irreplaceable!
I often wonder why we never have enough courage to go up to our friend ands just tell them how we feel and appologize if wrong or just accept the mistakes of the friend without the requirement of an appology? May be it does not happen all the time, but then its something thats common in friendships.
I understand you as much as I dont...
Of Expectations
I expected you be there in the darkest hour of my life!
But my friend , you know it was unavoidable, who knows it more than you? I have been looking forward to spend time with my family for years now. You were the one who encouraged me with the making this plan of a family vaccation?
Or it could be..You were the one who setup this job interview for me and you know how badly I was looking for this change?
Yet you say I wasnt there for you?
I dint expect you to be so angry with me!
I dint expect you to say all those things to me, your best friend!
I dint expect you to be so.....
Expectation, under the load of which best of friendships get strained.
Why do we expect so much from our friends? Are we capable of fulfilling the same if we were the person on whom so much expectation lay? Even if we are capable of meeting exceeding expectations, are we right in expecting the same from our friends?
I expect that you have no expectation from me..
Of Possessiveness
You dont own me!
I know I dont , but my friend how can I tell you without having to tell you in as many words that I cant accept the fact that you give more of your time to someone else?
But the truth is I dont! I give you more time my friend..
Maybe you do, but that cant stop me from feeling completely at loss when you are not around me when I need you.
Possessiveness is not a quality commonly associated with friendships. But it has to be admitted that it is not a quality alien to friendships. Many a friendship has disintegrated due to this one destructive quality.
Its a complicated emotion! When you like someone and someone likes you , its perfect. When you love someone and someone loves you again it can be perfect. But it is when this feeling lies somewhere in the dangerous waters of friendship that all problems arise.
Possessiveness is a quality I hate to possess..
On friendship
Well, all this goes back to just one thought. How do you define a friendship? Do friends love each other? Or is it that they like each other? Or does it lie in the earlier mentioned unchartable territory(something like a no man's land between nations?).
I love you my friend but not as much as I like you..
So why did I say I once had a friend? Due to one or all of the reasons. After writing all this I feel, I once had a friend. I always will have a friend just as I have one now.
To all my friends with love (or something like it).
Friday, March 09, 2007
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